"Sometimes we simply need someone to be there. Not fix anything, or to do anything in particular, but just to let us feel that we are cared for and supported."
Welcome to my website. For the past 20 years, I have been working with people to explore and move through struggles and create a life and relationships that bring meaning and more happiness. I believe at the core of all of us there is an innate goodness and wisdom. Everything you need to know to heal and live a fulfilling life is already within you. Over the years, I have learned how to bring my own intuition into my sessions. To follow my clients’ subtle unconscious messages guiding me to what to focus on to allow growth and healing to happen.
I also believe it is my job to help you recognize what are distorted beliefs and conditioning that were imposed on you and what is your authentic self. Focusing on your inner world, establishing a deeper relationship with yourself, building your self-esteem, releasing traumatic energy, and learning how to listen to your own intuition will organically change how you show up and navigate your outer world and relationships.
This work is my passion and I truly believe it is my calling. In high school, Steve Daughtry signed my yearbook “to the prettiest counselor I know”, because I was who my friends would come to when they had a problem and wanted to feel safe talking about it. I grew up in the South with the strong message that “children should be seen and not heard”. So, I became a really good listener. I didn’t know at that time that those experiences would lead me to the path I would eventually go down for my life’s work.
My first career was as a Financial Analyst. I have had a knack for numbers from a very young. I was doing long multiplication and division equations before I started kindergarten. So, working with numbers was my dream job. Numbers represented security to me even though I was not conscious of that at the time. 2 + 2 will always equal 4. Numbers are very stable.
Unfortunately, working in corporate America for over 11 years and moving up to a manager level, I found myself being asked to do tasks that weren’t in alignment with my values. For instance, having to choose which employees to layoff due to the CEO making poor decisions for the company. Then, being laid off myself 3 times in 3 years due to mergers and buy-outs. I felt pretty beat up.
Long story short, I had an epiphany when trying to decide on a new career path and I remembered my time in high school and Steve Daughtry’s yearbook message. I have always had a deep compassion, empathy and sensitivity to other people’s suffering and wanted my work to make a meaningful difference for others. It was then, I decided to become a Psychotherapist. I chose to get my Master’s degree at Texas Women’s University (TWU) because their Psychology program emphasized Family Systems Psychology. I knew that I wanted to work with relationships and I liked that TWU was a feminist university. During my time at TWU, I also pursued a Minor in trauma and violence. My thesis was titled “Revictimized Women and Male Perpetrator Relationships”.
After graduating, I worked for a non-profit agency in a First Offender Program where adolescents who were arrested for the first time were given the option to do 6 weeks of therapy with their family and have their record wiped clean. This is when I discovered how significant our childhood experiences shape our lives and how wounds get carried down generationally. I have worked with teens and families ever since. I also volunteered as a Youth Advisor for regional and national teen camps for 4 years in CO and CA. I received the 2008 Youth Champion Award for years of dedicated service working with teens.
In 2007, I attended an Introduction to Imago Relationship Therapy workshop for therapists. I was aware of Imago from seeing the founder, Harville Hendrix, on Oprah many times and was interested in finding out more about this approach given that a large part of my practice is working with couples. When the facilitator did a demonstration of an Imago dialogue between a couple, I was sold. I saw how in just 30 minutes a couple’s whole perspective of an issue and each other could transform. So, I signed up for the 2-year training and continue to be amazed at how couples can heal when they learn how to create meaningful connection with each other.
I have worked as a co-facilitator in many Imago Couples Workshops as well as trainings for other therapists to become certified in Imago Relationship Therapy. I have been honored to support couples during Imago workshops presented by Harville Hendrix and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, through a nonprofit organization they have created to support underprivileged couples.
Over the years, I have noticed an increase in the number of people coming in to therapy with high levels of anxiety and symptoms of trauma. I have been invited in to the internal suffering these conditions cause my clients. Wanting to provide relief and tools to help them manage and even heal their suffering, I continue to educate myself in neuroscience and have done additional training in Brainspotting, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and Compassionate Inquiry. All effective approaches to reduce anxiety and trauma symptoms.
On a personal note
My own family and friends are very important to me. I spend as much time with them as I can during my free time. My favorite thing to do is be out in nature. Nature feeds my body as well as my soul. In the summer, I enjoy hiking on all the beautiful trails in Colorado and traveling to different parts of the world experiencing other forms of natural beauty and cultures. In the winter, I ski (not well), snowshoe, and stay inside in my pajamas when I can.
Feel free to contact me for a free 20-minute phone consultation.